An anatomy of Boy-Girl Relationship

With no other option available other than growing older, the Hormonal change brings massive changes in looks, voice, body physique etc. And at this age only, things like attraction, likeness & so called love sprout among us and just like an adult pigeon couple, a lot of Jodis emerge in a specific population. Most of the times these are not permanents as different permutations can be seen for a particular individual. It’s probably due to human nature of getting bored at one thing if it lingers for long or always looking for better options. Because of these kind of popular Boy-Girl things, a simple relation has totally been overshadowed. For instance, If I am seen with a girl then she is obviously my “girlfriend” unless otherwise I make an unselfishly definite statement (forgetting how attractive she is!) that she is my sister or “I look her as my sister, yaar.”

There is no problem to have someone being called your girlfriend but problem is the meaning of Girlfriend or “GF” is not as simple as it is written or spoken. The other synonym of it is “Current Lover” or someone who is one part of the Jodi where you are the other part. And the term GF itself doesn’t sound permanent nor it indicates a friend who happens (fortunately or unfortunately!!!) to be a girl, because I remember one of my friend saying that the term friend has no gender linked to it and that’s why Boy friend and Girl friend words shouldn’t be used casually to distinguish male friends of a girl and female friends of a boy respectively.

Now, the question is, not a question actually, the problem is why the hell all have the mentality of thinking that there is something fishy going on when a boy and a girl become good friends(as they say a boy & a girl can’t be friends). For them I want to say- “Grow up guys. It’s not fairy tale or fantasy movie that there need to be such things.” Relationships are messy, so why not stay or think to be single and enjoy life as much and as long as possible till you fall in so called love (?????) and then enjoy being in love.

The problem with a boy (most of) is he simply thinks that a girl who is caring, affectionate and a good friend of him is actually in love with him and probably that may happen, there’s no doubt about it. But most of the case it doesn’t happen and the boy ends in having a broken heart and may be loss of a good friend. But there’s no fault of girl at all in most of cases if there’s a good friendship since girl doesn’t cheat on the boy, never says that she loves him to gain advantage, actually the boy’s assumption and expectation let him down. He feels cheated without actually being cheated. And some cases they become Devdas. But two things they should always keep in mind-

1) This heart- broken attitude finishes a good friendship.

2) And there are always a plenty of fish in the sea.